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Andrea's story

18 January 2018

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    "I was emotional, frightened when I first called so having someone calm and kind to listen was a massive help."

    Andrea shares her story about when she found out that she was pregnant, and her experience of having a medical abortion with Marie Stopes UK.

    "I found out I was pregnant at the end of January. I've never been a fan of artificial hormones so instead of using the pill long-term, I used protection with my partner and then we switched to tracking my periods with an app after two years. For a year, the app worked like clockwork; I tracked my moods, emotions, sexual activity and cycles in detail.

    "In the new year, I was up to my eyes with work, moving house and realised I was two days late. I figured this could have been stress-related. Two days later, my period still hadn't come so I took a test... Two minutes later, I saw a positive result; something I'd never experienced before.

    "As soon as I saw the initial result, I knew I wasn't ready to be a mother. Despite having a partner and being in my late 20s, I did not feel prepared on any level." 

     

    "I phoned Marie Stopes about an hour after I took my test, having confided in one friend. The lady on the phone was helpful, practical and spoke to me about options clearly. I was emotional and frightened when I first called so having someone calm and kind to listen was a massive help.

    "Like the initial woman on the phone, all the staff I dealt with via phone and in person for both visits were helpful, friendly and informative... Their attitudes helped to calm my nerves significantly. I expected to cry a lot and be an emotional wreck but found I was able to stay composed, ask lots of questions and talk through everything calmly because their attitudes put me at ease. There were even moments where I managed to laugh with them.

    "Following my second appointment (which was 8 days ago today) I was dropped off at home to pass my pregnancy and subsequently relax. I was told to expect the medication to kick in quickly, but for me, it was extra quick. It took 30 minutes to leave the centre and get home. As soon as I put my key the door, I realised I had started to bleed. For two - three hours, the cramping was strong and painful."

     

    "My advice for others is to source quality pain relief, ensure you have enough time off to rest fully and be kind to yourself."

     

    "My advice for others is to source quality pain relief, ensure you have enough time off to rest fully and be kind to yourself.

    "Having had my procedure, I still feel slightly raw. I feel disappointed that I happened to fall pregnant at an unsuitable time for me, but I am looking forward to a future scenario where I can make a different choice and feel happy to do so. This time in my life was made significantly easier to manage thanks to Marie Stopes, its staff and the services it's able to provide for women like me. I owe everyone involved a sincere thank you for the kindness and professionalism I was afforded."

    Andrea's story