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Charlie's story

18 January 2018

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    "I was devastated, and shocked, seeing those two blue lines was a metaphorical slap round the face."

    Charlie, tells us about her decision to have a surgical abortion at Marie Stopes UK in Bristol.

    "I had a really positive experience at the Marie Stopes UK clinic in Bristol yesterday, and I'd really like to share this with others, who may be going through a difficult time.

    "I have two children, aged 5 and 2, and a settled, happy marriage… As my son reached 18 months, I was beginning to see life beyond nappies and sleepless nights again.

    "One night is all it took to result in an unplanned pregnancy. We were careful, but we stupidly never thought we'd get pregnant without actively 'trying', as we tried for a while to conceive both our children. I was devastated, and shocked, seeing those two blue lines was a metaphorical slap round the face. I told my husband that afternoon, and he was as gutted as me. No-one else knew. I didn't want the judgement, or any 'advice' from others.

    "One of our issues that we couldn't resolve was: 'How can be compromise our children's lives?' We both work full time, and work hard to provide a good quality of life for our kids. They would lose out on so much, if we had another child. They would lose out on time with us one on one, they would not be able to have opportunities I'd want them to have."

    The team at Bristol were fantastic, it must be a very difficult job to do at times, but they were extremely caring, professional and non-judgemental.

    "So I called the Marie Stopes call centre line, and they gave me a telephone appointment a couple of hours later, to discuss my medical history and options. Once we had discussed my options, I chose to have a surgical abortion. This was because I couldn't face passing the products at home, with my children in the vicinity. I knew a surgical abortion would be quicker, and I would be able to get home, and return to my normal life sooner.

    "The appointment on the day was very efficient. My initial consultation with the nurse involved a scan, a quick iron blood test, and blood pressure. The nurse was lovely, he did make me chuckle - he made me feel at ease!

    "I then went to another waiting room to await my turn for treatment. 

    "My name was called and two nurses collected me and brought me to the theatre where a doctor carried out the necessary procedure. I have to say - it wasn't a nice experience, but it wasn't horrendous. It was over really quickly - within 5 minutes... The doctor was brilliant, she was so gentle, and the nurses were a godsend keeping me occupied.

    "Once it was over, I walked (with a little help from one of the nurses) to the recuperation area and laid on a recliner, partaking in a cuppa, some paracetamol and some (quite a lot of) biscuits. 

    "The team at Bristol were fantastic, it must be a very difficult job to do at times, but they were extremely caring, professional and non-judgemental.

    "I spent the rest of the relaxing with my children and husband, and being thankful that I had the option to give myself, husband and my children a choice for a better life."

     

    Charlie's story